About Me

Hey, there new friend!

I’m Shaylah Coogan.  I’m on a mission to reach and encourage single moms!

Did you know…single parents are the largest ignored minority group in America. In 2014, there were 13 million single parents raising 22 million children and each year that number continues to rise!

The majority are living below the federal poverty lines and not only are they parenting alone, but also feel alone in their communities, churches and in the workplace.

I was once in their shoes.

My goal is that this blog allows single moms to find community, encouragement, and resources in order to thrive as parents, give back to their communities, find an active place in their church and live their absolute best life! Will you join me?

Following a prompting from God, I originally started this blog years ago as a way to help single moms navigate the rough and fierce waters I once went through. But I discovered that I was still fighting those rough waters in my mind and deep within my soul {you will notice this in my old posts…some are so depressing…umm pre anti-depressant era!}.

Call it PTSD, depression, anxiety, whatever…I was still seeking guidance on how God wanted to use me or my writings to help others. I took a year plus hiatus to just pray, think, write and pray some more and deal with some of the pretty horrible things were happening around me. But God has been faithful to me. The result is fully guided by Christ and I pray that it will be a source of laughter, advice to keep your sanity, self-reflection and encouragement for all women, not just single moms!

So a ‘little’ about me…

I’m a Christ follower, Bible-loving, former unbeliever, wife and mother to a 19-year-old and a 16-year-old.

Let’s get a little more descriptive…

I LOVE words!  So here’s a few to accurately describe me best… I’m a first generation former single mom. I’m curious. Peculiar. A bit odd. Passionate. Funny. Blunt. I’m broken. Flawed. Whimsical. A wanderer. Dependable yet unpredictable. A true introvert and empath. I’m not a Republican. I’m not a Democrat. {and surprise! God isn’t either} I feel it’s irresponsible to vote a straight one party ticket. I’m for whomever consistently does the right thing especially when no one is looking.

I’m a fighter. Once a homeless, food stamp card toting single mom. An abuse survivor. A rape survivor. Former drug and alcohol user. College Dropout. A triumphant overcomer. Legacy changer. A writer. A speaker. Loves photography but can’t be trusted with a camera. Reader. I’m obsessed with books, paper, and good pens. Creative. Sarcastic. I’m certainly not your average mom and some of my best parenting tips must remain a secret. But my kids are really great people who talk to me about everything and anything…so I must be doing something right even if I’m slightly unconventional. I fiercely love those in need.  I’m expressive. A dreamer. Explorer. Nature lover. Single mom activist and advocate.

I laugh at things I probably shouldn’t laugh at. And at times, I tell jokes I probably shouldn’t tell. I’m most often directionless with bouts of random outbursts and unappealing dance moves. Loves shelter dogs {i have 5} I’m giving. Overweight. I’m on a steady dose of anti-depressants and anxiety meds with an occasional diet pill. {don’t judge, I promise it’s better this way} I am a hope and encouragement dealer. A non-judgmental truth teller. A Christ dweller who wondered the desert of doubt and unbelief for many years. I’m forgetful and distracted easily.

I’m a mom, mentor, and friend to many. I’m a nap lover who lives on quad shots of espresso {i have a serious caffeine problem}. My hubs and I sleep with all 4 of our tiny dogs…gross to some but try telling me that once you’ve had the softest tiny cuddlers wrapped around your side and legs. It’s undeniably the most perfect way to sleep. I catch toads, lizards and always try to befriend our backyard squirrels and opossums. Most often fearless. Huge nature lover. I’m low maintenance and find comfort in jeans and an old t-shirt.

I grew up in a home surrounded by generations of mental illness and abuse. I’m a generation changer. Turning ugly into funny was and is a survival mechanism. So I’m brutally honest with periods of mental illness surrounded in dark humor. I don’t always know where I’m going and I like it that way. I can be scatterbrained and forgetful. But surprisingly, I can get some %$&* done! And…I cuss sometimes {i really try not too, please pray for me}. I’m a fixer-upper. HGTV obsessed. Horrible cook. I’m loved, forgiven and full of God’s grace. I poke sticks in ant holes and watch them scatter. I have a strange collection of me in face cutouts. And many have probably wondered if there is something wrong with me!

I unexpectedly found myself an advocate for single moms…and I love it.  I’m blessed with an awesome husband who loves and adores my children as his own, loves to cook {many of my recipes are his!} and treats me like a princess. I’m grateful that God’s word molded me as a mother and a wife. I cherish being alive, I’m thankful for my life and am unapologetic about who I am.

One description I’m aiming for is to be a light to those in the dark while glorifying God!

Oh, and I love you! Thank you for allowing me to share!  So please explore, find encouragement, ask a question, subscribe and please share.

xo ~ Shaylah

Want to learn more about my story?

Letter to My College-Bound Son

Patiently, I Await

&#$%, I’m Pregnant.

You may have read some of my work on the following blogs:

Divorced Moms

To Love, Honor & Vacuum

The Praying Woman

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  1. I really liked your story a lot and I will definitely recommend it to my friends. I like that the main focus of your writings is on girl’s life and that’s really commendable.

  2. I’m blown away by your story and your outlook on life as someone who has endured so much. This is a beautifully written blog and your words are inspiring.

  3. I hope to one day be able to share the way you have here. Your vulnerability and honesty is inspiring to me as something be who dreams of writing but still trying to get past the voice in her head telling her she’s not good enough. Thank you Shayla

    1. I have faith that you will get there too – just start writing and don’t stop. You are good enough…you are much more than that! I believe in you!

  4. It is lovely to read a little more about you. I am so glad that you found your calling and started this blog. This truly is your calling! I’ve been so lonely but reading through your blog has really helped me realize that there is support for single moms. Thank you for your encouragement.

  5. I am sorry to hear about all that you have been through and I am glad that you have got through it and are using your experiences to help others. As a single mom, I share several similar experiences and I have found your blog so helpful. It’s incredible to see how motivational and positive you are, which I find very encouraging! Thank you. I have been sharing it with my other single mom friends.
    I am looking forward to reading your next post!

    1. God has used everything I’ve gone through for His glory and to help others who may have walked a similar path. I share the ugly, embarrassing, messy, and many times tumultuous experiences so others can see the freedom and growth in God’s grace. His Word has changed my life and I want all moms to experience the same and to never feel as though they are alone in this world. Thank you for your sweet words! If you are struggling, I promise you this is only a season. I am praying God’s promises over you and every single mom who visits my blog.

  6. My start in life was a good one. My heart really goes out to you when I read about all you have been through. But despite your hardship, you are here helping single moms get through our tough times. So I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your experiences in life and as a single mother.

    1. Thank you, Melissa. I’ve been able to overcome the worst through God’s love, grace, and forgiveness. Without it, I would still be a complete mess! I’m happy that my experiences have helped and hopefully made it to where to know you’re not alone.

  7. You are so inspiring! I hope that one day I can also have the strength to share my experiences to help others. I love your blog. Your writing makes me want to read more and more and I have got so many useful tips. Being a single mom can be hard at times so it is great to have a network that you can be part of.

    1. Natalie! Thank you but it is all God. He is the reason I was pulled from my darkness and pushed me to share. Put your faith and trust in the Lord and see where He leads you to make a difference in the lives of others with your story. I’m so happy you’re here and I look forward to chatting with you more!

  8. I just want you to know that I’m really inspired by your posts. I love the way you express yourself, and I also really admire your strength.

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